Sexist encounters in every day life in Romania. From the street to school. PT1

Being a girl in Romania, usually past your first menstrual cycle, you get used very quickly to the sudden onset of unwanted attention from the opposite sex in everyday life.

This unwanted attention starts off with harmless but insistent stares and evolves into catcalls, groping, pulling of hair on the subway, and even throwing of  rocks at you to get your attention by grown-ass men (true stories).

And the reason for the onset of  this unwanted attention is solely being in possession of a vagina, it seems.
Having dressed conservatively all my life and keeping my lady bits out of the lime light, made me think i can avoid this "spotlight", but not in Romania. The "admirers" seem to only need long hair and a feminine face to bestow upon you their "admiration" so the only effective deterrent might only be...shaving your head.

Now this wouldn't be so bad since this type of  "flattery" is surely only specific of certain "specimens", right?
All you have to do is avoid them, right?
Right! except this species of male is extremely abundant in Romania and you would have more luck avoiding mosquitoes in summer than avoiding them.
And mostly because every year Romania goes under construction : roads, sidewalks, parks, buildings etc. since everything here is built from "high class" materials that only last one year, so at every step you will encounter construction "engineers" feverishly describing how and what they would like to do to you, you lucky lady!
 Now, if you happen to have a teleportation device and can portal your way avoiding these areas, do not worry.
You are sure to run into one of the alcohol-powered models or the sports-powered models somewhere ( especially if you like to have a healthy workout from time to time and go to parks or sport courts) who will undoubtedly shout "pussy" or "vagina/pussy on the court" in a loud husky voice to announce your arrival.
But, this is just childish, right? nothing too serious to worry about, until you overhear a conversation on the street at night between a woman and two men along the lines: "bitch you want me to beat you up?" while the other guys laughs, ah but that's just typical Bucharest at night, nothing to worry about as long as you are safe inside somewhere....


ANYWAY, as annoying as such repeated encounters might be, and as disillusioned you might become with this society, and as true as some sayings about men and a certain animal, popular during Christmas here, might start to sound, DON'T  fall into the trap of generalizing.
Because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and as long as these encounters are non-life threatening you'll be able to overcome them and you will find there are educated circles with lots of decent human beings and you just have to follow your studies to have your faith in men restored, especially if you are a decent girl yourself and not your stereotypical Romanian "pitipoanca".
That is why when you encounter such prehistoric behavior in these circles it makes it all the more SHOCKING.

And that, not the attitude or mentality on the streets, is the REAL PROBLEM.

What exactly are you supposed to think when a college professor decides to make a speech in his class about how girls shouldn't become doctors because girls should be delicate and doctors become cold blooded.....never mind that it was not class-related at all. 
Or when another college professor slips and says that girls at not good at computer science in a computer science seminar where half the present students were girls...which coincidentally were also the ones with the best grades.
But as saddening as hearing these mentalities from male teachers past their 50's is, you can let it slide when you realize there was no real ill intent in those words like i realized in those cases.
But then,  the bomb drops when another professor decides to address two tardy female students (who just so happen to be the top of the class) with "what happened, didn't your boyfriends let you get out of bed?"....

Now, the first thing that goes through your mind might be "i can't believe they talk about their sex lives with the professor" but  the joke quickly turns to tragic when you pick up on this professor's sexism towards females since he would never dare make such a comment towards a male student, especially a top grader. But in his "defense" he didn't know they were top of the class then so he just used his default greeting for girls who apologize for being tardy.  

Oh well, you think this surely just means you chose a crappy university, and surely in the other universities and especially those with more females attendance this doesn't happen. So you dig around and ask your friends from other universities and find out it happens there too.
But again, if you start feeling disillusioned and disappointed don't you dare fall into the traps of that icky-feminsm stuff, because that stuff is obviously unfounded tripe made up by haters with nothing in real life to trigger it's need. After all you are just ONE girl, and you might just have shitty luck that is all.

And whatever you do don't try to speak up and change anything because that's not your place , pussy!